Think before you put anything about your partner, spouse, or marital issues in writing or post anything online (email, text message, tweet, letter, Facebook, etc.). Whatever you put in writing or post online could end up there forever and could be seen by anyone, including the Court or your children – even if you think it won’t! In the heat of the moment, it might seem funny to take revenge by saying tactless or unkind things, sharing personal or private stories, or posting embarrassing pictures of your partner online, but it will just make the situation worse. If you must, write down everything you think you want the world to know, have your laugh, and then throw it away. This can be even more healing than posting online and won’t make matters worse. At the end of the day, you’ll be glad you didn’t passive-aggressively air your or your spouse’s dirty laundry in the public sector.